The Four Agreements Take Nothing Personally

The second agreement invites us to recognize that we all work from the perspective of our own unique experiences. My perspective is different from your point of view, and while we may share a multitude of commonalities and connections, your actions, thoughts, and words are not about me. No matter what a friend posts on IG, tells me at the coffee shop, or thinks about how I dress, for example, it`s NOT About Me. (Pointing out that it`s still pretty hard for me to achieve, and I guess I`m not alone.) If I personally take something that a friend does, I center myself, use limited information to jump to conclusions, and ignore their experience and perspective. In addition, I tell myself lies. If I take things personally, I ask myself (painful) questions like: the third agreement describes the question of making assumptions about how they lead to suffering and why individuals should not participate in it. Assuming what others think, it can cause stressful and interpersonal conflicts, because the person believes that their acceptance is a representation of the truth. [10] Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the act of acceptance is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear. [9] Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not making assumptions. [1] There is a lot of freedom that comes to you if you don`t take anything personally. You will be immune to black wizards, and no spell can affect you, no matter how strong it may be. The whole world can applaud on you, and if you don`t take it personally, you`re immune.

Someone can purposely send emotional poison, and if you don`t take it personally, you won`t eat it. If you don`t take the emotional poison, it will get worse with the sender, but not with you. If you get into the habit of not taking anything personally, you don`t need to rely on what others do or say. You just have to trust yourself to make responsible decisions. You are never responsible for the actions of others; You are only responsible for yourself. If you really understand this and refuse to take things personally, you can`t be hurt by the reckless comments or actions of others. Whatever happens around you, don`t take it personally. Nothing others do is because of you.

It is up to him to choose. All men live in their own dreams, in their own minds; They are in a completely different world than the one we live in. If we take something personal, we assume that they know what`s in our world and that we`re trying to impose our world on our world. Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; So you don`t need to personally take what you hear in your own head. Don`t take anything personally, because by taking things personally, you are preparing to suffer for nothing. If we truly see others as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do…